Whoever doesn't want to be with you, is not for you
Sometimes you're not a good fit for someone.
Just like many others are not a good fit for you.
It doesn't mean there is something wrong,
you're just not right for each other

Sometimes to make relationship work, one of you
need to compromise radically, like give up your job,
move countries, or have children/ not have children,
These choices are not better or worse, they just take you
in different directions, too different to make it work.



We all want the same
We all want someone to accept and embrace us as we are,
while encouraging and supporting us to become the best version
of ourselves

We want someone to make us feel certain, and in turn,
we want to be certain of them



I've seen people who struggle communicating their emotions speak freely
I've seen people with very busy schedules make time
I've seen people who in the past feared commitment, get married and live happily
If they really want to, they do
You can't, and should not, make people do what they clearly don't want to




All commitments are built on trust and are defined by whatever boundaries you set together.
Actions reinforce trust, or erode it. Sometimes damage can be repaired and trust regenerates.

But if you don't trust what your partner tells you, don't invade their privacy, don't lurk. If you can't trust what they say or do, it's over.



Do not expect anyone to fix you, save you, make you happy or solve your problems, you have to figure out how to do that on your own.

And once you do, you will be free, and you will be able to get through anything without needing anyone.

Then you can start spending time with people out of choice, not out of necessity. Then you're with someone out of love, not out of loneliness


1. Never go to bed angry at the love of your life
2. To be updated once I figure out what I have learnt from the past relationship



We find a great distance, a great disconnect and a great interference in the way we communicate with each other. Communicate in relationship is already hard enough and long distance relationship add a whole new level of complexity. People often say distance means so little when someone means so much but distance somehow has this ability to break bonds, to break trust, to really push us further away from each other not just physically but emotionally.

SO PLEASE REMEMBER THIS!!!

-If the relationship matters the distance doesn't. Don't let being far from someone make you push them further away.

-Make sure to share the little moment of joy because all the small moments in your day that brighten it up with that other person.

-Most important things is to make allotted and prioritize time for each other. It is going to be difficult to just reach other spontaniously so it is important that is is become part of your priority.

-Remember to build your won personal life and remember it is OK for the other to build theirs, don't try to control and hold someone back by having incredible experiences, invest in yourself and allow others to grow and evolve in their own way

- Talk through the struggle and hard feelings because texting is a brilliant way to miss communicate how you feel and miss interpret what other people mean. Don't ever try and text through the rough conversation make sure you phone and talk to them instead whether if they like it or not.

Updated 4/4/2020