All such roads for him lead in the wrong direction. He may not know it, but he behaves as if his own individual life must be fulfilled at all costs. This is the source of his egoism which is one of the most tangible evils of the neurotic state. But the person who tells him that he's too egoistic has already lost his confidence and rightly so, for that person has driven him still further into his neurosis.

If I wish to effect a cure for my patients, I am forced to acknowledge the deep significance of their egoism. I must even help the patient to prevail in his egoism. If he succeeds in this he estranges himself from other people, he drives them away and they come to themselves as they should, for they were seeking to rob him of his sacred egoism.

This must be left to him, for it is his strongest and healthiest power. However wretched this state may be, it also stands him in good stead, for in this way alone can he get to know himself and learn what an invaluable treasure is the love of his fellow beings. It is moreover only in the state of complete abandonment and loneliness that we experience the helpful powers of our own natures.

When one has several times seen this development at work, one can no longer deny that what was evil has turned to good. And that what seemed good has kept alive the forces of evil.
~Carl Jung