There's nothing that could've been done differently. We couldn't've (lol) made different choices than we did, and things couldn't've been different, because the decisions we made seemed to be the best ones at the time when we were making them. We don't consciously make mistakes.

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You have 2 choices in the present. Either COMPLETELY accept it, or take action to change it. Else, you suffer from nonacceptance. Of course, you could say "I'd rather suffer than fully accept that I'm (...)". Then suffer from your insanity if that's your will. You have the right to be insane. But do you want to? Isn't it insane to wish reality could be different from reality?

We must accept the past (without resentment) to stop suffering. If you were stuck in mud, would nonacceptance of being stuck help you? Or would you first acknowledge that you're stuck and then try getting out?
But your ego will try to stop you from doing that. The ego clings to the past for its identity. For the ego, losing a part of its identity is like death.

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"If you are one of the many people who have an issue with their parents, if you still harbor resentment about something they did or did not do, then you still believe that they had a choice — that they could have acted differently. It always looks as if people had a choice, but that is an illusion. As long as your mind with its conditioned patterns runs your life, as long as you are your mind, what choice do you have? None. You are not even there. The mind-identified state is severely dysfunctional. It is a form of insanity. (...) The moment you realize this, there can be no more resentment. How can you resent someone's illness? The only appropriate response is compassion."
- The Power of Now

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What can we ever regret? There's nothing there. What we lost doesn't exist in the same reality as our regrets, whether it's people who died, lost opportunities, mistakes we made or things done to us by others, and it's the law of the universe. If we got attached to someone or something, a temporary state, with the mindset that we cannot live without them, we suffer because of this unconscious mindset. But if we remember that everything is impermanent, we are prepared that one day we may lose anything and live as if nothing happened, grateful for the present moment, still making the right choices. That's enlightenment.

Once you die, would you want your loved ones to get depressed because of your death?
No?
If not, why would you suffer because of your loved one's death? Would they want you to suffer? Would they want to deny you happiness?

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The past doesn't exist, and there's no future either. Don't believe me? Well, if we didn't think about the past, where would it be? Don't memories and mementos exist in the present moment?

Or, can you show me the future? If not, where is it? Well, it's not anywhere, am I right?

What is, is. What was / what will be, is not.

Isn't anxiety also derived from attachments and the lack of understanding of impermanence? Everything in the 3D world is impermanent. We get too attached to identity, opportunities, belongings, mind states, relationships and even life.

Relationships can end at any moment, while we can be loyal without conditioning our happiness on someone's presence. Loyalty without attachment. After all, how can we love others if we're using them for our happiness?

In the end, all we need to do to end anxiety is practicing observation and realizing every time that whatever makes us anxious, doesn't exist. Anxiety is also unconscious.

Do you have a personal problem? If not, then why worry?
Do you actually have a problem?
Can you do something about it?
If so, do it.
If not, then what's the benefit of worrying about it?
(taken from a flow chart)

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Revenge is never fair. To not be an insane egoist is to be forgiving towards ourselves and others, and that's the harsh truth. Punishing ourselves harms us and those close to us who aren't conscious. Punishing others only causes more suffering without fixing anything. Karma happens on its own. All we can do is trying to prevent bad situations from happening again, and trying to make the culprit compensate for their wrongdoings to the victim, but NOT to the victim's ego. Ego is deadly, just like the revenge that comes from it. Vengeance is not compensation ; it's evil (research Natural Law). Justice is like wanting to change the past.

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Are you depressed or is there depression in you? Do you identify with your depression?
Because that's the real problem. Aside from a processed food diet and lack of sleep or vitamins (such as vitamin D), depression is never caused by the external world, only by our minds and the long-term results of our thoughts. Even the often-quoted chemical imbalance has a cause, which is bad habits and unconsciousness. It's created when our minds fall into downward spirals of fear of some kind...

We cannot defeat depression while we have fear of things that don't exist in the reality, meaning things that most likely will / won't happen (doesn't matter which).

Gratefulness, forgiveness, mindfulness of every moment / breath / the inner body. Notice that all these actions make us focus on the Now. To attain inner peace independent from happiness and sadness, we start by ceasing to think compulsively, as thoughts take us away from the Now, while all forms of conscious presence bring us closer.

You pause thinking every time you notice that you're thinking. It's the Quantum Zeno effect. Then, keep replacing thoughts with presence.

Learning not to think or feel negatively takes effort but it's possible if you practice, as it rewires your brain. Nothing external can stop you, only aversion can. Those who say mindfulness doesn't work, don't practice it. But can you have benefits without practice? Really.

Instead of thinking happy thoughts, the objective is not to create unhappy thoughts.

Can we be unhappy when not thinking? What creates sadness if not thoughts?

“The past has no power over the present moment.”
- The Power of Now

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If you want to be happy in the future, you'll never be happy in the present.

Even if you're sad, you can still feel inner peace. Psychological pain and fear are as illusionary as time is. If you feel them, you're not present: the primary sign you're not in control of your "self"; your ego has taken over.

“Be at least as interested in your reactions as in the situation or person that causes you to react.”
- The Power of Now
Think of it like asking yourself "what da mind doin'?"

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That considered, are YOU your mind or are you something more? Do you cease to exist when you have no thoughts, feelings or emotions? Can you truly say "I think, therefore I am"? Therefore you are what ?

"If there were nothing but thought in you, you wouldn't even know you are thinking. You would be like a dreamer who doesn't know he is dreaming. You would be as identified with every thought as the dreamer is with every image in the dream." So, like in a lucid dream, become lucid IRL.

Even better, astral projection functions OUTSIDE of the mind...

You aren't your mind, the mind is only a vehicle for the consciousness. Otherwise, you wouldn't be able to be conscious of your own thoughts. But you can observe your thoughts, can't you? What is it that observes them? And what's aware that there's and observer? But a conscious you is something your ego (the unconscious mind) cannot grasp. Don't try to understand it. Feel it. Be it. Once you notice what the mind is doing, you also notice you're beyond the mind. Therefore you don't think, but you are.